Negative beliefs: Why do we think like a 4 year old?


You may be saying, ok, that’s weird. I definitely do not belong in that group, right? You may not, but there is a high probability negative beliefs2that you do. Let’s see.

The brain produces 5 types of brain wave, which operate at specific frequencies and are associated with the different states of awareness for adults:

Beta Brain Waves – Fastest brain waves when your mind is in the most state of alertness and high mental activity. High level logical thinking is present in this state.

Alpha Brain Waves – This is a state of relaxation, or meditation; this is a state for inspiration, visions, and powerful ideas.

Theta Brain Waves – This state is characterized by a high level of imagination and deep internal thoughts. You tap into your intuition and inner guidance.

Delta Brain Waves – Deep relaxation or deep sleep with no dreams.

Gamma Brain Waves – Gamma brain waves are the highest frequency brain wave type at above 40 Hz. A variety of studies have associated gamma with the formation of ideas, linguistic processing and various types of learning.

Children from the age of two to six operate in theta brain wave state and perceive our world through magical thinking, imagination, and most importantly human emotions. Children at this age are unable to think logically. Their brain is like a sponge taking in everything that is happening around them without applying any logic to it.

So what does it have to do with us adults? Quite a lot. As small children we are unable to think logically but store all information with perceived emotions. This is where our beliefs come from, both positive and negative.

Let’s say, you come from a family where money was tight and your parents were arguing a lot about money and spending money. Then, you as a child had associated money with arguing and fighting, and that’s your negative belief. This negative belief is stored in your subconscious mind. So if you are struggling in life and don’t have enough money, you may be actually repelling money on the subconscious level because you don’t want to be fighting with people.

Or, when talking about rich people your parent would say things like “he must cheat and steal, that’s why he is rich”. Then you as a kid had associated rich people with stealing and cheating, another negative belief. Your subconscious mind that protects us from harm will bring out those negative beliefs every time you think about money or rich people. So, you end up not wanting money (again on a subconscious level) because you are not a person who steals or cheats. So, no matter how much you wish to be rich (on a conscious level), it won’t work out for you because you are fighting against in on a subconscious level.

Another great example is relationships. Are you struggling to make it work with your partner? Then try to observe your thoughts. What did you hear when you were a kid? Did your mother talked down to your father? Did she say things like: “Men are lazy.” Or “Men can never do anything right.” If yes, then no matter how you try, you’ll never make it work with your loved one because you have think those thoughts on a subconscious level and you act and talk following those thoughts or negative beliefs.

Isn’t this weird? That even though we want something so much we will never have it because of our negative beliefs that we acquired when we were kids. And yet, it’s true! And since most of us are not aware of these negative beliefs, we talk, act and make decisions that influence our adult lives based on the emotions and associations our brain stored when we were 4 year old!

It’s our subconscious mind protecting us from the harm. Unless we change our negative beliefs, we will never reach those high goals we set, get a lucrative job, run a prosperous business, or have the perfect relationship.

So now what? Well, unless we change our negative beliefs, no matter how hard we work, or try to have a perfect relationship, we will never have enough money or the perfect relationship. We need to reprogram our subconscious mind and replace the negative beliefs with positive ones. So, as a start, just observe your thoughts. And when you realize you have a negative belief, try to change it. Next time instead of thinking the above negative thought when you see a luxury car, change it to a positive one. Here are some examples “That’s an awesome car, I would love to drive it too!”… “That young man must really enjoy driving such a great car!”

Other very common negative beliefs are: “I need to work hard for money”; “Money don’t grow on trees”; I am not good enough”, “I am not worth it”, and so on….

And how do I know all of this? Well, I’ve been there. I had all sorts of negative beliefs about money, work, people, or relationships. But I was fortunate to recognize those beliefs and I’m replacing them with new positive ones. And my life has been changing tremendously as a result of it!

It’s not difficult; all we need to do is to observe our thoughts. If any negative ones come to our mind, just acknowledge them and replace them with new, positive ones. So what we do is we are consciously thinking positive thoughts and replacing the negative beliefs stored in our subconscious mind. It goes easier with time and after some time, you’ll notice that when you see a luxury car parked on a street, your first thought will be “I love this car and one day I will own it!” And YOU WILL, because YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY!

Listen to the short recording below where I explain the different types of negative beliefs and steps how to remove them in more detail:


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About Daniela Sulek

Daniela Sulek, the Founder and Editor-in Chief of, dedicates her free time to helping people to change their lives with transformational tools that work. Daniela uses a combination of strategic business thinking and a passionate dedication to improving her readers’ lives. She delivers on her mission to enhance the lives of her readers by building connections and providing the best strategies and information available from experts in their fields.




    September 21, 2014 at 11:32 pm

    Great article, association impacts how we perceive the world. The only thing that turns me off about the content is the repeated usage of the word never.

    While it’s hard to rewire your brain, it all boils down to avoiding tunnel vision and identifying fiction from facts. We all have silly beliefs, some are toxic but if we just pause and think about whether that belief is based on facts and the gray areas, we can be more objective and less victimized by our old thinking.

    Thanks for writing this. I think you would enjoy Self-Coaching by Dr. Joseph Luciani.

  2. Daniela Sulek

    September 22, 2014 at 6:30 am

    Hi Hector, thank you for your comment. I’m not familiar with Dr Luciani’s work; I might check it out.



    November 19, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Hi Daniela, thank you for your article, it has really made me think… I am a big fan of Louise BTW. I am sure that I am experiencing resistance, as I have been brought up to work hard to get what you want therefore the logical part of my brain does quite believe that manifestation is possible?? I have been visualizing but have so far manifested ‘checks in the mail’ only for other people!! How did that happen? I have a board, I am good at imagining and playing the scenes in my head of living in the dream house, owning the dream car, receiving cheques in the mail etc…I can evoke the feelings but my logical mind knows that this is not real. How do I resolve this?

  4. Daniela Sulek

    November 22, 2014 at 1:19 pm

    Hi Victoria, thank you so much for your comment. Believe me, you are not alone, we have been programmed to believe we need to work hard for money, to earn a living. Those are the beliefs, and we need to change them to re-program our subconscious. I would suggest meditation – there are some good one on youtube – meditation to receive, or to open to receive…try to look it up. Also, you truly must believe you are worthy of receiving. Practice it everyday; change the word “earning money” for “receiving money”; if someone gives you something, take it as you are worthy of it (eg. gifts), without a feeling of guilt.
    The meditation works wonders as it quiets our logical mind, opens our intuition and connect us to our Higher Self. By doing it, you may receive an inspiration for an action that can bring you the abundance you deserve.
    Sending you a lot of love.

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