Negative beliefs: Why do we think like a 4 year old?

By on May 16, 2014

You may be saying, ok, that’s weird. I definitely do not belong in that group, right? You may not, but there is a high probability negative beliefs2that you do. Let’s see.

There are the brain produces 4 types of brain wave, which operate at specific frequencies and are associated with the different states of awareness for adults:

Beta Brain Waves – Fastest brain waves when your mind is in the most state of alertness and high mental activity. High level logical thinking is present in this state.
Alpha Brain Waves – This is a state of relaxation, or meditation; this is a state for inspiration, visions, and powerful ideas.
Theta Brain Waves – This state is characterized by a high level of imagination and deep internal thoughts. You tap into your intuition and inner guidance.
Delta Brain Waves – Deep relaxation or deep sleep with no dreams.

Children from the age of four to seven operate in theta brain wave state and perceive our world through magical thinking, imagination, and most importantly human emotions. Children at this age are unable to think logically. Their brain is like a sponge taking in everything that is happening around them without applying any logic to it.

So what does it have to do with us adults? Quite a lot. As small children we are unable to think logically but store all information with perceived emotions. This is where our beliefs come from, both positive and negative.

Let’s say, you come from a family where money was tight and your parents were arguing a lot about money and spending money. Then, you as a child had associated money with arguing and fighting, and that’s your negative belief. This negative belief is stored in your subconscious mind. So if you are struggling in life and don’t have enough money, you may be actually repelling money on the subconscious level because you don’t want to be fighting with people.

Or, when talking about rich people your parent would say things like “he must cheat and steal, that’s why he is rich”. Then you as a kid had associated rich people with stealing and cheating, another negative belief. Your subconscious mind that protects us from harm will bring out those negative beliefs every time you think about money or rich people. So, you end up not wanting money (again on a subconscious level) because you are not a person who steals or cheats. So, no matter how much you wish to be rich (on a conscious level), it won’t work out for you because you are fighting against in on a subconscious level.

Another great example is relationships. Are you struggling to make it work with your partner? Then try to observe your thoughts. What did you hear when you were a kid? Did your mother talked down to your father? Did she say things like: “Men are lazy.” Or “Men can never do anything right.” If yes, then no matter how you try, you’ll never make it work with your loved one because you have think those thoughts on a subconscious level and you act and talk following those thoughts or negative beliefs.

Isn’t this weird? That even though we want something so much we will never have it because of our negative beliefs that we acquired when we were kids. And yet, it’s true! And since most of us are not aware of these negative beliefs, we talk, act and make decisions that influence our adult lives based on the emotions and associations our brain stored when we were 4 year old!

It’s our subconscious mind protecting us from the harm. Unless we change our negative beliefs, we will never reach those high goals we set, get a lucrative job, run a prosperous business, or have the perfect relationship.

Let’s do a little test now: Imagine you are driving and you see a young man driving a luxury car (let’s say ….). What is the FIRST thought that comes to your mind? If it’s something like ”How come he is driving such a car”….”What an arrogant jerk” or “Probably a spoiled kid”…See, there’s your negative belief!

So now what? Well, unless we change our negative beliefs, no matter how hard we work, or try to have a perfect relationship, we will never have enough money or the perfect relationship. We need to reprogram our subconscious mind and replace the negative beliefs with positive ones. So, as a start, just observe your thoughts. And when you realize you have a negative belief, try to change it. Next time instead of thinking the above negative thought when you see a luxury car, change it to a positive one. Here are some examples “That’s an awesome car, I would love to drive it too!”… “That young man must really enjoy driving such a great car!”

Other very common negative beliefs are: “I need to work hard for money”; “Money don’t grow on trees”; I am not good enough”, “I am not worth it”, and so on….

And how do I know all of this? Well, I’ve been there. I had all sorts of negative beliefs about money, work, people, or relationships. But I was fortunate to recognize those beliefs and I’m replacing them with new positive ones. And my life has been changing tremendously as a result of it!

It’s not difficult; all we need to do is to observe our thoughts. If any negative ones come to our mind, just acknowledge them and replace them with new, positive ones. So what we do is we are consciously thinking positive thoughts and replacing the negative beliefs stored in our subconscious mind. It goes easier with time and after some time, you’ll notice that when you see a luxury car parked on a street, your first thought will be “I love this car and one day I will own it!” And YOU WILL, because YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY!

Here are some very common negative beliefs that sabotage your success, love life, or happiness : “I need to work hard for money”; “Money don’t grow on trees”; I am not good enough”, “I am not worth it”, I can’t do it” and so on….

Are there other negative beliefs that come to your mind? Also, please come back after you try to implement the above tips and let me know how it changed your life. As a thank you for all your comments we will choose randomly 3 of you and send you a FREE audio book of Louise L. Hay “I CAN DO IT”, an international bestseller that is helping people all over the world to change their lives.  The audio book is packed with positive affirmations to be used to create change in all areas of your life - health, forgiveness, prosperity, creativity, relationships, job success, and self-esteem.

Thank you for all your comments as they are helping us to help you to change your life to a positive one!

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About Daniela Sulek

Founder of Madamesque, Daniela believes all women are extraordinary and enjoys writing and publishing stories about every aspect of women's life. Contact Daniela at madamesque.mag@gmail.com if you would like to contribute to Madamesque with your article and enrich lives of others.

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