Real Story: Overcoming Obstacles

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linda-h-williams-hs-3My name is Linda H. Williams. I have been homeless, unemployed, a drunk, a drug dealer, broke, hopeless and helpless. I have been both a victim and a victimizer of domestic violence. I tried, on several occasions, to kill my abuser. I allowed situations and people to control my life and it wasn’t until I lost just about everything that I realized that if you allow someone to control you, they pretty much determine who you are and what you have. When I met my ex, I had my own home, a car and a good job.

By the time I was delivered from that dark place, the Sheriff had set all of my furniture on the curb. I have come to realize that I was partly to blame for what happened because I stopped taking care of my own business. I had gotten to such a dark place in my life that I couldn’t even see the light. It was a terrible place to be and what was worse was, I didn’t know how I got to that place, so I couldn’t find my way out. I have a sister, Joyce, who lost her battle with breast cancer, but she grabbed onto my hand and wouldn’t let go until I could see the light in my own life, again.

Finding the path out of darkness is not easy, but it is doable. I was angry at my abuser for a long time and I lived in that anger. On the outside, I appeared to be getting my life back on track. I had a new job and had purchased a home, so all was well. But it wasn’t. On the inside, I was still smoldering in a fire of anger that still controlled my thoughts. So, consequently, I still reacted to some of those same buttons when they were pushed. You see, I blamed him for losing my home and forcing my son and I into homelessness. After awhile, I said, “wait a minute, his name wasn’t even on the deed. He didn’t lose my home, I did!” I made the decision to stop taking care of my business and depending on someone else. It was at that point that my healing began.

I stopped blaming someone else and took responsibility for myself. That’s where the journey begins. It may not be your fault for what happened, it might be, but it sure is your fault if you continue to reside in the negative impact of yesterday’s decision. Forgiveness – I had to forgive myself. It’s much easier to forgive someone else than it is to forgive ourselves. But, that’s the first step. So, I began to take a look at myself and, of course, I started beating myself up. You know what we say to ourselves, “How could you have been so stupid?” We’ve all said it. But I realized I couldn’t grow if I continued to beat myself up for something that I couldn’t go back and change. So, I made a conscious decision to start changing the way I was thinking about my life’s situation. I kept saying, “Yesterday is gone, I can’t change what happened, what can I do to make sure it doesn’t happen again?” It’s been a process and I continue to learn and grow daily. I may not be where I want to be, but I am so thankful that I’m not where I used to be!

 

“What I’ve learned is that your past is only where you’ve come from. It doesn’t define your present nor does it dictate your future, unless you allow it to.” 

 

I have been blessed with another chance, just as you have another chance. That’s how life is, we get second  chances, but if we don’t learn from the first chance, that second, third and fourth chance will produce the same results. What I’ve learned is that your past is only where you’ve come from. It doesn’t define your present nor does it dictate your future, unless you allow it to. Your past can either immobilize you or it can propel you to greater heights than you ever thought possible!

I am now an author, inspirational speaker and an insight and wisdom coach. More importantly, I have regained my sense of self-worth. I want ladies to understand that no one should be able to fulfill your destiny for you. You are the one who determines what you will do with your life. All someone should be able to do is to help you achieve your goals. This journey called life is a road you must walk. Someone can walk it with you, but not for you.

Daily, I am thankful for another chance and I want you to know the possibilities are endless for you. My passion is the restoration and empowerment of women. I will grab hold to your hand and I will hold it tight, until the light in your life shines again. That is my destiny! You see, I am not a recovering alcoholic, I have been delivered. Man has recovery programs, but deliverance comes from a higher authority.

Delivery brings about destiny. Those same situations that I once allowed to control me have become my testimony to you. We all have a past, and that past won’t go away. But your past isn’t as important as how you allow it to control your present. That baggage that we bring with us will eventually weigh us down and can ultimately destroy us. You have to believe in yourself. You have to have goals-not just dreams. The difference between a dream and a goal is – a dream is a thought, but a goal requires action.

Set goals. Be thankful because, trust me, it could be worse.

I am a living testimony that there is joy on the other side of through. Let us walk this journey, together.

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Linda empowers women through her gifts as an insight & wisdom coach, facilitator, author and inspirational speaker. Her passion is to influence women in such a way as to inspire them into positive action, to get them from where they are to a place where they can
love the life they live. Linda works tirelessly providing her services to various women’s organizations. She facilitates several support groups, workshops, seminars and provides inspirational speaking for many women’s causes. She provides life skills to the Women’s Prison system and to community based programs offered through local agencies. Linda provides professional development to local colleges and businesses. She is the author of “Your Past Has Passed” book, a Contributing Writer to various magazines and a columnist for Christian Reporters. Linda has a degree in English and is a Certified Insight & Wisdom Coach.

About Linda Williams

Linda empowers women through her gifts as an insight & wisdom coach, facilitator, author and inspirational speaker. Her passion is to influence women in such a way as to inspire them into positive action, to get them from where they are to a place where they can love the life they live. Linda works tirelessly providing her services to various women’s organizations. She facilitates several support groups, workshops, seminars and provides inspirational speaking for many women’s causes. She provides life skills to the Women’s Prison system and to community based programs offered through local agencies. Linda provides professional development to local colleges and businesses. She is the author of “Your Past Has Passed” book, a Contributing Writer to various magazines and a columnist for Christian Reporters. Linda has a degree in English and is a Certified Insight & Wisdom Coach.

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